Monday, April 12, 2010

Life During Divorce

Tonight's entry is authored by Elizabeth Marum.


It is tempting to throw your hands in the air and give up on yourself when going through a divorce. It is easy to get overwhelmed and let your divorce become your life.

But your divorce is not your life. You still have control over your immediate world. You have a job. You have a car. You have the day-to-day chores and responsibilities that can help keep you feeling sane. It is Springtime in Atlanta and the weather begs for you to go for a hike, bike ride, or neighborhood festival. Try to keep up with the activities that used to be habit.

It is important to keep hold of these controllable elements of your world during divorce proceedings. Don’t walk away from your job. Don’t give up on the job search. Don’t forget you have family and friends who care about you. Do keep up with your bills. Go out and enjoy some time with friends.

Not only is there likely to be a Standing Order issued by the Court that requires you to keep the status quo (by not shutting off the power in the marital home or cancelling insurance), but keeping up with those things that make you who you are will help you keep a line between your divorcing world and the you that must exist at the end of it. If you don’t, the “divorcing” you will linger long after the judge grants the Final Decree.

Elizabeth Marum

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